So today we told the kids what is going on. The 5 year old (ironically #5 in the food chain) said she was mad. Not surprised. This child exhibits "baby of the family" characteristics so strongly, that I was initially worried when baby #6 was born- but she tolerated her well. Irritated at times, but they are 4 years apart, so the space is perfect for them-
No- today when we "surprised" them with the news- #5 said- "We have too many babies. Now we'll have 9 people in our family, soon it will 10, then 11, than 12, than 13, than 14."
Ummmm, not sure who she communicates with, but if it's God- I'd like to ask that we stop at maybe, 10? I'm good with 9, but about a month after this baby is born, I'll be 42. Now I do know people who are 45 and having babies- but I would prefer- not to- that's just my preference. Now- a little more NFP knowledge. According to studies done on women with large families- sometimes, even though family history might indicate early menopause, studies have shown that some women, who have larger family sizes and babies later in life- tend to have menopause pushed back slightly- instead of 50- it might be 55, etc. Not always the case, but it seems to be something worth noting. I of course, have no idea when I'll go through menopause- it's not something I ever discussed with my diseased grandmother on my mother's side, and my dad's mother passed away before I was born. My mom had a hysterectomy when she was very young (mid 30's?) so the actual menopause time is not definitive. So.......
I could technically have many more years of fertility. "gulp..."
My #4 was probably the most excited. She screamed. She actually has been lately saying her prayers and praying for another baby. Which is kind of funny because I think they all are really more aware of how much harder it is to have a large family- even her- but it hasn't stopped her prayers for another one. She was dancing around and singing and shouting. Someone is excited.
My oldest two were indifferent- my only son #2, probably realizes at this point, it's going to be tough to achieve a boy- and even if it IS a boy- well, the 13 1/2 year difference will make it tough for lego play....but he's once again saying, "I hope it's a boy, THIS TIME..."
I'm pretty sure my #3-the one I homeschool, was already figuring in her head where on EARTH this one is going to sleep. Pretty sure, she's planned her departure from this family not a minute before she graduates from high school.... she's my middle child and according to that book, "Birth Order," she is middle child to a tee.
That leaves #6. She's completely oblivious to #7's potential arrival. She barely speaks and is getting used to running the show around here- but if there is one positive I have found in even thinking about how nutty we are is that- #6 really is far away from the older 5. The youngest was 4 when she was born, so she really would grow up without much of a playmate and my kids have always had playmates (my older two are 18 months apart-and they played so well together when smaller!) Now #6 will have a playmate and that makes me very happy.
Seven isn't so bad at all.
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